As the year withers away……

A new year has almost arrived. It promises to bring happiness and wash away the tears left in the previous year. Most of us are busy preparing to welcome the next year in a pompous way. Shopping, celebrating, engaging themselves in social gatherings. While the preparations to allow the new year come with a bang, I am wondering about the year that just breezed by. The way I had wanted it to start, the new year resolutions, the greetings and wishes exchanged, the promises made for a better future, for a better life.
Every year we strive to make the coming year a better, richer experience than the previous one. One way to do this is to do good things and surely good things do happen to us. One other way, is to stop doing what is wrong. We all wish to learn from mistakes. At some point we all wish to make a new beginning, to start over from scratch. We wish to leave behind our dark, sinful past which has marks of our mistakes. We wish to color the canvas of our life in the brightest of colors without the slightest hint of darkness.
This year lets strive to not to bad things, because no matter how much merit one gets because of the good deeds one does, one never gets excused for the bad one has done. I look back on how the year went, many joyous moments, some sad and heartbreaking ones. The smiles I got and the laughter I shared, the arguments I fought and the tears I shed, the hearts I won and the love I lost, it’s all always going to be there. But life gives me another chance, so I can make a new start this year and make amends.
Happy new year and a happy new beginning………..

Handling hatred!!

Sometimes certain reactions are expected from people, we are aware about what they think about us, how they perceive us. We’re prepared to accept their love, care, respect, kindness, sympathy, even ignorance. How does one learn to accept hatred; hatred from a person who we never expected it from? Most of the feelings are self-earned, few of them, however, are inflicted upon us. Hatred is a feeling I’ve often encountered, sometimes given, mostly received. Yet we never really get used to being hated. Every time I realize the feeling of being hated, I begin to switch off from the world. It’s definitely not worth bothering yourself for somebody who has chosen to hate you, but I wonder what wrong i did to earn the hatred. It has happened before, it happened again. I continue living with the hope that it won’t happen again.

College to corporate!!!

The best lived years of one’s life are definitely the ones spent in college. We cherish these moments for life and there is absolutely no doubt that given a choice we would revert back to college life. However, the final year of college marks the commencement of the anticipation of students to enter corporate life. For some it is a new life expected to be with new challenges, for some it’s an ending of one phase of life and beginning of another, but for too many people it’s just something that will give them a social status and guarantee income and for few others’ it signifies responsibility. According to me, the transition from college to corporate varies from person to person, however one challenge is common to all irrespective of whatever their motto was for entering corporate world, is remembering how we really were and what friendship meant. Now one may argue that they face this particular issue everywhere and may question its impact exclusively during the college to corporate transition phase. However, one must not forget that during college a fellow colleague doesn’t make or mar your life greatly. Sadly, the same cannot be said for office life.
One thing which is true for office is “nobody is unimportant”. Everyone has their own circles prior to the new-bee arrival and everyone is observing you. The people who tend to ignore you the most are the ones who are most interested. Before you know it, impressions about you are sweeping the place. There are different categories of people in the office. First, there are those who understand thoroughly what it means to be a fresher and are extremely caring and help you whenever you ask. Secondly, there are those who despise you because of your package/profile and tend to find everything about you ill-mannered or irritating. Thirdly, there are those few who don’t give a damn about your or anybody else’s existence. These are usually the best people to hang out with. Somehow everyone loves them even when they hardly care about you, simply because these people do not interfere and lead a life indifferent to what happens in others’ lives. Lastly there is this amusing category which enjoys the seniority bestowed upon them. They go out of their way to help you, not because they want to help you, but simply because they are seniors and they know stuff!
Fresher’s are broadly of two types, the one which is a very passive crowd which nods heads to every statement, does assignments on time, works super hard on presentations, maintains decorum in office, etc. You get the drift. The other crowd is more like a mob, works in packs, is friendly with majority people around, high in socializing and in making contacts, easily noticed and they generally move with a spot light on their head. Disciplinary requirements and expectations are learnt with time. Work is practiced. Excellence achieved. Slowly fresher’s move into the office acceptable category.
Somehow while getting our office life to accept us and blend into work culture and becoming career oriented, money minded, we forget what it is to be surrounded by friends. Our personal success is all that matters and we seldom think how it will be to move ahead with a bunch of friends that just trying to reach the finish line alone. Some of us are lucky to get friends again in office too, just like I got 3 more idiots with me, the fourth idiot. This one is dedicated to the three people who make life easy in office and the only reason why I look forward to coming to office daily and office isn’t just compulsion anymore. It is advised to keep personal and professional lives apart. But they are that professional part which I willingly take home.

Friendship with you!!

Life plays the most impossible tricks on me. Its mean, harsh and excruciating, yet I want to live it, pursue it, add more life to it.

I was born with people around me, who were gifted to me, there for me, to pacify, comfort and understand me. In a particular span of life, I was thirsty for more such pacifiers, who came in my life eventually. I worked towards preserving them in my life. Lied, manipulated, compromised......... to keep them with me. Still that thirst remained.....

Like a bolt from the blue, you popped into my life. I do realize, that for once I did not have to work towards the relation I share with you. It has its own charm.... Its beautiful having you in my life.....

Those sweet nothings!!!

i read ur every lil gesture, sense wat u say even b4 u say it, u talk to me wit ur smile,i can read ur eyes, every thing u do, excuses u give to b wit me, things u say to make me happy, u call me sweet names, u make me laugh, smtimes u make me cry n console me, u laugh wit me, u laugh at me, u do things only 4 me, u love me in a way nobody has ever loved me b4....... All this i do 4 u too, my dearest friend , im glad u came in my life, uve made it complete, u make me feel special..... Thank u

Relational analogy

from what ive seen n what ive learnt......
Being in a relationship is like makin two people sit on a chair meant 4 a single person......
at first they cuddle up, sit with each other, wont leave each other no matter what...
eventually they begin to crave 4 space n sit one at a time... later on constantly sittin on d chair becomes a pain in d ass.....
gradually one of them wants to go away 4m d chair.... one might wanna change d chair.......
nw its a brand new chair wit d same tragedies to follow!!!

a complete reference to understandin girls!!

is often observed tat wen a girl n a guy becum d best of buddies a standard pattern in their behaviour is observed....
1.> d girl starts rantin abt even d smallest of problems to d guy, basically she wants him to b a part of everything... d truth is she likes it tat smbody cares... she isnt much worried abt d problems herself but unknowingly b attention chahiye (kya kare, hum to aise hai bhaiiyya!!!) anyways....
2.> wat guys notice is tat k ladki choti choti baaton pe natak karegi... plz notice all d big compromises she made too!! she gets cranky unnecessarily but wil b ur pillar of strength wen ur facin problems (u gotto accept k agar koi b ladka apna problem share karta hai , its wit a girl.. among boys u nvr really share problems u jus make fun of it!!)
3.> she understands u more than u kno (dont think she dsnt understand ki tum usko kalta rahe ho but she lets it pass...) but smtimes its worth torturing u... hehehehe
4.> guys u must watch as many hindi muvis as possible (however dramatic or tom boyish she is, kahi na kahi she's a barbie doll who dreams... n muvis provide necessary fodder)
5.> other guys lukin at hot chicks n passsin lewd remarks is acceptable, but apna bf yeh sab kare to galat baat hai
6.> wen she cuts ur phone-call mid way, she is expectin u to call her back, n she'l keep on cuttin as many times as u call her
7.> her family/frnds/office ppl/ street/ house/ colony/ mother tongue/ caste /culture/etc etc is better than urs (u really dont wanna argue abt tis, jaane do)
hwever she is, d truth is u cant live without her...... she has d power to love n accept u d way u r !!